Slut-shaming

            slut  /slət/ n.: A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.

Why is a female's sexuality the centre of all religions? Why is a woman's purity based on a hymen? something that has no benefit to the human body, but to preserve a man's ego and secure his property.

I do not want to be wrapped up to hide from men and their gazing eyes, I do not want to be paraded around nude to please men and their lustrous thoughts, I want to be seen as an equal human being, not an object that needs to be glorified nor protected.

I have a brain, I have a heart, I have emotions, thoughts, sexual desires, a personality and dreams. Just like any other man in society.

I would like to experience life and people, travel and explore another person's body, feel the warmth of another human being in my bed. just like any other decent man in society.

I would like to venture and push the envelope with my sexuality. try out new positions, new partners, Some whip-cream, hand-cuffs and feel a liberating orgasm. just like any other man with a sexuality in society.

I would like Anal sex to be a preference not an alternative to vaginal sex, to avail from the fact that yes I was a sexual creature before marriage and will continue to be after marriage. just like any other man in society.

I would like to dance, sunbathe and take my shirt off when it's hot outside, take a drink if I want to, even smoke in public if I want to. just like any other man in society.

I would like girls to talk openly about their past sexual and emotional experiences with their partners and not have to pretend to be "pure". just like any other man in society.

We have a right to our bodies. You are not allowed to call anyone a whore for wanting to explore her body. You are not allowed to call an outfit slutty because it doesn't fit your dress code. You are also not allowed to ridicule a girl if she herself chooses to cover up and is happy about it. We have a right to dress as we please and be with whom we want.

Eve: Admit it, deep inside you are doing this out of jealousy that you are not able to express yourself that bravely, that everyone sees your true colours.

Adam: Admit it, you resolve to slut-shaming because you yourself don't believe that what you're doing is right, because you have been brainwashed by society and religion to believe that you have an entitlement to sex because you lack a hymen, you are entitled to sex because you're superior, and slut shaming is your way into scaring women into being quiet.

Summer Gratitude

For one night, I got to be myself.

I am on a boys couch. I am on a boys balcony. I am in a boys apartment, and that's ok. 

it doesn't entitle him to anything, because this is not the Arab world.

I can dance, whichever way I want to, I can get up on the stage, I can be carried around the dancefloor, we can grind each other like nobody's watching, because I fucking can.

I am flying off the ground.

I can drink, I can take shots, taste wine (and hate it), enjoy a cocktail, because I want to.

I can wear a tank top, nobody I know can see me and shun me, I can walk around the streets in a tank top, I can't remember the last time I could free the hot summer air on my arms, my shoulders, my neck, me chest, my legs.

I can dance on the streets.

You carried me on your shoulders all the way home, so that I wouldn't get tired. Everyone on the streets saw me being carried around, and nobody cared. 

We had your famous post-party noodles, that I still miss, and I owed you nothing. You put me to sleep, and I owed you nothing, you moisturised the skid marks around my thighs, and I owed you nothing. I was naked, and I owed you nothing.

for one night, I didn't need to be covered, yet I was not abused. for one night I was myself, and I owe society nothing.